I recently had a coworker say an phrase that I thought was funny. So, I thought that I’d start a list of phrases that I thought are neat and keep adding to it as I go about my life.

1. Keep me honest
   • I thought that this was funny because of the alternative. Like “Nah, man. You’re a liar and I’ll never correct you!”
2. “What do you miss?” “I miss what I used to worry about”
   • I thought that this was a great line from the kdrama I started watching called Twenty Five Twenty One. I’m not even fully grown, but I do think that some of the troubles and worries that I had in the past were not much at all.
3. “Apparently, your real age is 0.8 times your actual age”
   • I saw this in another kdrama called 39, but I simply do not think this is true. Maybe in the show they meant the biological age vs actual age, but when I read the subtitles, I thought this was funny.
4. “A man so full of charm that his earlobes reached his shoulders”
   • I saw this in the book “Paper Menagerie and Other Stories”. I don’t really understand what this means, but I thought it was funny. Perhaps it means that the man was very old
5. “Money comes back, time doesn’t”
   • I thought that this was a wise saying. I don’t remember who I heard it from, but I think that it was in the kdrama “Hospital Playlist” Season 2.
6. “We’re all just ordinary men… faced with extraordinary choices. In those moments, sometimes heroic ideals demand that we become their avatars.”
   • This is from a short story in the book Paper Menagerie and Other Stories. This line makes me think that life is not predetermined and is a matter of the many decisions we make
7. “Dogs know that they are cute”
   • I heard someone say this while walking down the street and I thought it was amusing. I totally believe it too.
8. “No one likes what they do” “Then why do we do it?” “Because we are driven”
   • This is from the movie Nocturnal Animals. Not sure why I like this interaction, but I thought it was funny. Like we are driven to do things we don’t like to do
9. “My feelings towards you are like unrequited love towards a cat”
   • This is from the kdrama Extraordinary Attorney Woo. I thought this was very funny and accurate
10. “As long as you don’t forget about someone you yearn to see, they will come to you as the rain or even as the wind”
    • This is from the kdrama Once Upon a Small Town. This was a pretty poetic phrase about loved ones passing
11. “Rainy days are for writing letters”
    • This is from a manga chapter that I read online. I thought it was pretty wholesome https://www.reddit.com/r/manga/comments/z1h7et/art_this_manga_is_so_wholesome_sometimes/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
12. “Love blossoms even in the middle of war”
    • I heard this in the second season of Singles Inferno. I think he was trying to say that love can happen at any time. In this phrase specifically, I think that it is possible that conflict can bring more opportunities for someone
13. “Isn’t that what love is? Two people going through everyday life together.”
    • From “The Interest of Love” kdrama. Pretty sweet line
14. “One should overcome their psychological trauma before 40 in order to mature”
    • Heard this in the kdrama “Crash Course in Romance” . I agree that would be great, but it is not always able to be done. What if the psychological trauma happened right before you turned 40?
15. “The fairest thing in the world is the sun. Regardless of the latitude, every place on Earth, throughout the year, receives equal spans of day and night.”
    • This was from the Taiwanese movie called “A Sun”. I took this quote a bit out of context, but it’s literally not true or at least the translation is not true. Places closer to the north and south pole do not receive the same amount of sunlight as the places closer to the equator on any particular day. Maybe over a span of a year, the amount of daylight may sum up to be equal, but it’s possible that that is not true. This kind of brought me out of the movie because I felt that it was simply false.
16. “History is not going to repeat itself, but it is going to rhyme”
    • I heard this in a YouTube video from ClearValue Tax. I thought it was a clever phrase since the usual phrase is that history is going to repeat itself. So, for this phrase, it means that history will be similar to before, but not exactly the same.
17. “figure out a way… without boiling the ocean”
18. “People who like pork don’t marry pigs, do they?”
    • This is from a kdrama called “My Demon”. This was too funny, but really rude to the girl.
19. “It is important to think about ‘weird’ things in order to feel happy”
    • My dad told me this when we were walking around in a park
20. “Being without you is like hell to me”
    • This was from My Demon. What a smooth line haha
21. “There’s no story to a poem. There are only emotions”
    • This is from the kdrama Welcome to Sandal-ri. I’m not sure if this generalization can be made for every poem, but I thought it was a interesting observation

Recently, I’ve been thinking that I may benefit from having a life coach or a career coach. It sounds a bit odd for me to want to ask a random person to help me to gain clarity about my goals and desires, but it definitely seems like I have not been doing enough for myself in these aspects.

One aspect that is blocking me is that I don’t really understand how these services would help. I don’t have a clear picture of where I want to go or who I want to be, so I’m not sure what the coach would have to go off of. I think these services probably work best when the person has a specific goal in mind and the coach is experienced in that area of expertise and is able to enumerate steps to get to achieve the goal. Also, coaching is relatively expensive and takes an extended period of time to reap results, so it’s hard for me to jump in without doubts.

Another aspect that is blocking me is my mental state or personality. Often times I can’t distinguish between the two, especially in the scenario of relationships. I could see how a therapist or a life coach could help in that aspect – like helping me think more positively about myself, helping me improve my self confidence, learning how to have more empathy and desire to care about random strangers that I may or may not ever interact with ever again. One example of this is my current thinking that it is ok that I’m not in a relationship with a significant other. One reason that it’s ok is because I feel that there are better options out there. I would be doing the other person a disservice by consuming their time and energy when they could be have a more fulfilled life with someone else. For this example, I can envision the argument where someone says that “Oh, Jeffrey is depressed or has low self esteem”, but at as certain point, I feel like I might just have a pessimistic personality. And do I want to change my personality? Perhaps, but what if this is part of who I am, my identity, I wouldn’t want to change that on a whim, right?

This morning when I was opening my bathroom door, I feel like I saw a spark when turning the knob. I’m not sure if that is possible or not, so I can’t say that for sure. I definitely don’t remember this happening to me before. Weird. The door opened just fine and I was able to use the bathroom without any issues.

I recently hung out with a friend and he taught me some card games that he’s played when growing up. Here are some of those games and a brief description about them

1. Liar game
   • Similar to “BS”, players get dealt cards and they place cards face down. The first player starts off with a specific number of cards of a particular suit. The other players have to play cards of that same suit. At any point, the player who last played cards can be accused of lying. If the accusation is true, then the liar picks up the deck of cards and the accuser starts the next round. If the accusation is false, the accuser picks up the deck of cards and the truth teller starts the next round. The goal is to be the first player to run out of cards
     • Example round:
       • Player 1: 2 diamonds
       • Player 2: 1 diamond
       • Player 3: 20 diamonds
       • Player 1: Points at Player 3 and says “Liar”
   • One variation you can play is playing cards of a specific number instead of a specific suit
2. Slap game
   • The goal of the game is to run out of all your cards. Each player gets a deck of cards. The players take turns playing cards face up. If the previously played card is the same suit as the current card or if the previously played card is the same number as the current card, then you can slap the pile. The player who slaps the pile last takes the pile of cards. If the pile is slapped by mistake, the player who made the mistake takes the pile of cards.
3. Count to 9 game
   • Similar to blackjack. This game treats Aces, Jacks, Queens, and Kings as 0. You use the ones digit of the card to try to add up to 9. You get dealt 2 cards face down and can only get a single additional card.
4. Psycho game
   • This is a card game for 3+ players. Each player gets a card and puts it on their forehead. Each player can see the cards the opponents have, but not their own. Through talking with the other players, you have to decide whether you believe your card is the largest in value. If you do not believe you have the highest card value, you can trade your card into the deck for a replacement. You can only replace your card once. The winner is the player with the largest card value.
5. Big 2 variant game
   • I don’t think I fully have the rules for this game. The largest card is the 2. The strength of the suits go from Clubs, Spades, Diamonds, Hearts (I think). I’m not sure if 5 card poker hands are allowed. The goal of the game is to get rid of all of your cards. To start a game, the 3 of clubs goes first. You can play singles, doubles, a 3 card straight, or a triple. When I played with my friend, we didn’t play any other set of cards, but I suspect that there are more options available. If you are playing singles, you can play a 3 card hand to beat the single. Then the opponent will have to beat your 3 card hand. 3 card straights are weaker than triples.

I recently made a goal to walk outside everyday for at least a few minutes. I’ve been spending a lot of time in the apartment and I think with the seasons changing as well, I don’t think I’m in the greatest spot emotionally and mentally. So, I thought that getting some fresh air and stepping away from the computer would be helpful.