Paper Names Review

Warning, this review contains spoilers.

I got this book after attending a book signing event at work. The author, Susie Luo, was invited to talk since she recently wrote this book and because it is Asian American and Pacific Islander Heritage Month.

This book is a fiction book centered around the lives of three people: Tammy, Tony, and Oliver. The story is constructed by following each of these characters at various times and places as they struggle with work, family, hardships, and new experiences. Each chapter is focused on one of these three character’s point of view. Tony is a Chinese immigrant who left his life as a successful engineer to live in Flushing, New York, in order to earn more money, break through the “ceilings” in China, and to provide a better life for his daughter Tammy. Oliver is a Caucasian man who lives in an expensive apartment in Manhattan’s Upper West Side called the Rosewood. He’s a partner at a law firm and meets Tony when he is working as a doorman at the Rosewood.

I thought the book was really easy to read and I flew through the book in a few days. Even though the book has Chinese pinyin scattered throughout, the English translations followed right behind the Chinese to provide the necessary context. Luo mentioned that she wanted this book to be able to resonate with all audiences, not just Asian American audiences, and I think that it does to a certain extent. The first few chapters made me think I was reading a generic Chinese immigrant story, but there were some wild twists and turns. This book has something for everyone, but it is still heavily slanted towards the Chinese American experience.

The descriptions of the Chinese American experience were realistic. Getting teased at school for bringing “ethnic” food for lunch, getting passed up for raises and promotions at work, getting taken advantage of due to the language barrier and differences in culture. Tony and his wife’s perspective about America and its people were realistic as well. They shared the mindset that they were outsiders and should keep their heads down and work as hard as possible in order to achieve the things they want in life. Fortunately for them, they were highly educated in China, so they could pull from their experiences to move up the ladder. They also admired the American people, especially the rich and successful ones.

Although I enjoyed reading the book, the plot was a bit problematic for me. One issue I have is that there are aspects of “white worshipping”. The main white people in the book were Oliver, Clara (a wealthy former actress living in the Rosewoord), and Vince (college classmate who becomes Tammy’s boyfriend/fiance). Each of them were very wealthy and generally good people, so that could explain why the other characters treated them with so much reverence. However, there is a sense that Tony and his family wanted to act like them, live like them, be like them, be them.

Another issue I have with the plot is that there is a love interest between Oliver and Tammy. Oliver meets Tammy when he is 26 and she is 9. Oliver offers to give her piano lessons after hearing her play at Clara’s apartment and Oliver continues to provide a mentoring in her life with piano, school, and work. When Tammy grows up, she graduates from Harvard and joins Oliver’s law firm. Even when Tammy was a child, Oliver felt a drawn to Tammy. There was no indication that he was sexually attracted to her as a child, but there were numerous instances where he was sexually attracted to her after she turned 18. Although not explicitly written this way, Oliver introduces Vince to Tammy in an attempt to suppress his desires. Tammy goes through with dating Vince since he has “kind eyes”, but later in life breaks off the engagement because of a tragic event in her life and the realization that she loves Oliver. I’m not saying that this is an example of grooming, but that’s the feeling I got when I read the book.

The final issue I had with the plot actually resolved itself in a satisfactory manner at the end of the book. But while it was unfolding before my eyes, it was pretty messed up. To summarize, Tony entrusts his daughter Tammy to Oliver to teach her how to play the piano. Oliver and Tammy form a strong bond that turns into love, despite the age difference. Oliver is in the car that kills Tony, and Oliver flees the scene. Tammy is devastated, bawling in the hospital, and calls Oliver to tell him the news. Oliver comes and consoles her at the hospital, kisses her for the first time, promises to stay with her, and does not tell anyone about his involvement in the hit-and-run. After I read this, I had to put the book down and mentally recover. Thankfully, the series of events ends with Oliver confessing to Tammy that he was in the car during the hit-and-run and Tammy reports him to the police. Before reporting Oliver to the police, Tammy and Oliver both say that they love each other and the book ends without discussing whether Oliver gets convicted. Tammy mentions that she’ll never forgive him, but it’s not explicitly written that she doesn’t love him anymore.

Would I recommend this book to someone else? I’m not sure. Definitely an exciting story and it shares a lot of perspectives about the Chinese immigrant experience and what it is like growing up as a first generation Chinese American. However, the plot might be a bit too wild for me to recommend to others. Despite that, this was Luo’s first published book and I look forward to reading other books from her in the future.

Manga that I’m currently reading

I’ve read more manga than what this list shows. If a title isn’t on this list, then I’ve either completed the series, forgot to add it, or stopped reading it.

Action

  • Eleceed
  • One Piece
  • Mashle – Magic and Muscles
  • Jujutsu Kaisen
  • My Hero Academia
  • Black Clover
  • Dandadan
  • Monster #8
  • Sakamoto Days
  • Mission: Yozakura Family
  • Fabricant 100
  • Sakamoto Days
  • Chainsawman
  • Peerless Dad
  • Mercenary Enrollment
  • Nano Machine
  • Fist demon of Mount Hua
  • One Punch Man

Fantasy

  • Dungeon Meshi
  • Shibatarian
  • Magilumiere Co Ltd
  • Omniscient Reader’s Viewpoint
  • The Greatest Estate Developer
  • Re:Monster
  • That Time I Got Reincarnated as a Slime (Tempest)
  • Murim Login
  • The Gamer
  • Second Life Ranker
  • The wrong way to use healing magic
  • Mairimashita! Iruma-kun

Historical

  • Kingdom
  • The Elusive Samurai
  • Otoyomegatari

Slice of Life

  • A Couple of Cuckoos
  • Maybe Meant to Be
  • Komi can’t communicate
  • Blue Box
  • Spy x Family
  • Oshi no Ko
  • The Ichinose Family’s Deadly Sins
  • Hokkaido Gals are Super Adorable
  • Service Wars
  • Ichigoki’s Under Control
  • Cipher Academy
  • Me & Roboco
  • Akane-banashi
  • Witch-Watch
  • Me and my gangster neighbor
  • Kindergarten wars
  • Chieri’s Love is 8 Meters Tall
  • 365 Days to the Wedding
  • Yancha Gal no Anjou-san
  • The Fragrant Flower Blooms with Dignity
  • Ijiranaide, Nagatoro-san
  • My Wife is a Little Scary
  • Turns out my dick was a cute girl
  • Soredemo Ayumu wa Yosetekuru
  • ‘Tis Time for “Torture,” Princess
  • Mieruko-chan
  • The 100 Girlfriends Who Really, Really, Really, Really, Really Love You
  • A Rare Marriage: How to Grill Our Love
  • Yankee JK KuzuHana-chan
  • Ghostbuster Osamu
  • Goddess Café Terrace
  • Karakai Jouzu no Takagi-san
  • Karakai Jouzu no (Moto) Takagi-san
  • Welcome back, Papa
  • Hanging Out with a Gamer Girl
  • Tonikaku Kawaii
  • Kanojo, Okarishimasu
  • Sono Bisque Doll wa Koi wo Suru

Sports

  • Blue Lock
  • Ao Ashi
  • Hajime no Ippo

Thoughts about the world – 4/24/2023

I’m watching this Netflix show called How to Get Rich, and the host, Ramit Sethi, helps people to take a closer look at their finances and tries to navigate them to their “rich” lives. Each person on the show has defined their “rich” life differently, and it is interesting to see how they plan their actions to move towards that goal.

As I read more about violence, political unrest, and societal issues, I wonder to myself, what does it look like to live in “greatest” country in the world? What would I like my life to be like in this society?

For me, I would like to be able to live in a “fair” society that people feel safe and secure to pursue their dreams. I would like a system that supports people through hardships and the good times. I’d like to live in a place where everyone feels like they belong and they are wanted and they are loved.

My views on the greatest country of the world will be different than the next person’s, so it is possible that we are currently living in the best possible country that accommodates aspects of each person’s views. However, I hope that this is not the case. I hope that there exists at least one path we can take to get closer to the “ideal greatest” country, together.

First time going to a Jiu Jitsu class

One of the things I wanted to do this year was to improve myself as a person. This can come in terms of skills and in terms of being comfortable with myself. One of the skills I’ve wanted to learn for a while was martial arts. I’ve seen TV shows and read manga about fighting, and it was pretty neat. My dad did martial arts when he was younger. So, when my brother and I were growing up, he would show us some moves. I used to always run away from these scenarios and watch from a safe distance. As I grew older, I developed an aversion to physical contact. It’s not bad enough where I will not shake someone’s hand or hug someone if they are going for a hug, but if I can avoid it, I usually wave my hand as a greeting or farewell. So, I thought that doing a martial art where there is a lot of physical contact would be a type of immersion therapy of sorts.

The people at the class were really welcoming. They taught some techniques to get from a side control or back control position to an arm bar or choke position. Really tiring stuff and I am bruised all over. But I think that it was a good experience. At the end of the class, we had five minute “roll” sessions, which seemed to be just a free-for-all “sparring” type of thing. I totally understand how these professional fighters get so winded. Like just a minute or two of these sessions got me so tired and the partner is putting a lot of pressure on the body. Thankfully you can take breaks. I don’t plan on becoming a master jiu jitsu person, but I do think I’ll go a few more times to this class. I also may try out some other martial arts places around the area to see how I like those.

Jamaican Style Chicken Patty

I bought these chicken patties at Costco. I met a guy in NY who liked chicken patties and the ones that he had smelled good. That is the only reason I bought this.

The patties were flaky and fragrant. The filling was tasty and hot. There wasn’t enough chicken, and the patty did not fill me up. There were a couple of different flavors available, so I’m not sure if this was the best option, but I’m still content with the purchase.

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“Dungeons and Dragons” Movie review

Warning, this review contains spoilers.

I watched the new Dungeons and Dragons (D&D) movie in theaters with a friend from college and it was a fun movie. The movie started off with the cast telling the audience that watching movies in the theaters made us heroes. I never knew that I am both a hero and villain – I watch movies in the theater and in my living room.

The movie wasn’t about how people play the Dungeons and Dragons game online or in person. It was about the D&D universe. The main plot was described through a flashback / story told by the main character Edgin when he was pleading for parole in front of a council.

Basically, Edgin is a bard who is part of the Harper Guild and was living a respectable life with his wife and daughter. After a certain point, he wanted to live a more luxurious lifestyle, so he stole some gold during one of his jobs as a Harper. This theft resulted in fatal consequences – the Red Wizard member tracked down the stolen gold and killed his wife.

After the death of his wife, his life was very tough, and he resorted to more theft to help support himself and his daughter. Edgin learns about a magic relic that can bring someone back to life, so he decides to leave home with some friends in order to retrieve it from a safeguarded Harper vault. In the vault, Edgin and his friend Holga was captured and sent to prison.

The main plot of the movie is the adventure Edgin and the other friends partake to escape prison and get back his daughter and revive his wife. Along the way, there are a bunch of different side quests he has to accomplish in order to get the necessary items to steal back the relic that can revive his wife.

The movie had some serious moments and a lot of funny parts. There were references to the D&D lore and many familiar monsters, such as a mimic and a dragon. There were also some monsters I was not familiar with, such as an owlbear. The special effects and fight scenes were exciting to watch. It was also pretty cool to see the creative use of magic in the movie. I’d recommend this movie to anyone who enjoys watching action, adventure, or fantasy movies.

“A Sun” Review

Warning: this review contains spoilers.

I’m a member of a movie club and one of the movies that we decided to watch was called “A Sun”. I’m more of a casual member, so I don’t participate that often or watch all the movies, but the movies that I have seen through the club have been relatively good. This Taiwanese movie won a few awards and I thought it would be an entertaining watch.

During the movie, I was confused by some of the events that occurred, but the story and the background context unraveled as the movie progressed. I appreciated that the actors looked like normal people and that the story was following a working class family. The opening scene successfully grabbed my attention and I wanted my questions answered in why these kids pulled up at a restaurant and chopped off a guy’s hand. I may have missed it or they may have not mentioned it, but when they said that A-Ho (one of the main characters) got his 14/15 year old girlfriend pregnant, I was wondering how old A-Ho was. Like I feel like this guy was also in high school and he did go to juvenile detention, so he couldn’t have been too old, but to steal a motorcycle with a friend to assault someone with a machete and knife doesn’t sound like something someone should be doing, especially if he’s about to be a parent. Of course, it seemed like he didn’t know that he was a father so maybe he wasn’t thinking very far in advance. They mentioned that this Oden guy had been bullying A-Ho, which is why A-Ho and Radish (A-Ho’s accomplice), pulled up to teach him a lesson, but the assault seemed really unwarranted. Anyways, no need to talk about this incident any longer.

The movie was shot well, some of the scenes, such as the one with the parents talking on the top of a mountain, was really well done. I think that the movie was called “A Sun”, because of the message that A-Ho’s older brother said in the movie. He said that the sun was shining down on everyone and that animals and most people had the ability to shelter themselves from the sun’s rays. However, he felt that he was unable to protect himself from the sun. He later committed suicide due to the unending pressure. As a viewer, one critique I have is that I didn’t really get the sense that he was under that much pressure. Perhaps I don’t understand the Taiwanese culture very well, but it seemed like he was going to school and studying to be a doctor. I definitely think that studying to be a doctor can be tough, but from the scenes I watched, it didn’t seem like his studies were overwhelming him. Maybe the combination of the studies and the societal or familial pressure was too much, but his parents didn’t weren’t giving him that much pressure. They could’ve been more present, but the mom was worried about taking care of the pregnant girlfriend and the baby while working as a beautician and the father was busy with his job teaching driving school.

The performance from Radish was really good. He was so convincing that he annoyed me. I wanted A-Ho to cut this guy out of his life so then he could focus on working and providing with his family, until I realized why Radish was sticking around. Radish was sticking up for his friend, which is why he cut off Oden’s hand. Obviously, he went too far, but if your best friend says that they are getting bullied, then you got to help them out.

The movie had graphic violence and and criminal behavior, so I wouldn’t recommend this movie to everyone. But the drama was convincing and held my attention throughout.

“Of Boys and Men” Review

It was a typical Sunday for me. I woke up, watched a bunch of YouTube videos before looking for volunteer opportunities and making lunch. I wasn’t looking for anything specific in the volunteer opportunities – just something with low commitment, short hours, near public transportation, and something to get me out of the apartment.

During my browsing the internet, I came across the New Yorker article “What’s The Matter With Men?”. This was an interesting read about how the modern man is falling behind the modern woman in various aspects and it introduced me to the book “Of Boys and Men”.

The book describes the current world where boys and men are not doing as well as girls and women academically and in the workplace. The author Richard V. Reeves acknowledges that there is still more progress to be made to improve women and their standing in society, but we are losing track of another population that needs more help – particularly boys and men who have less financial means.

I’d recommend everyone to read this book. It does a good job at highlighting some strengths and flaws with the mainstream perspectives about men and women in society and offers some ideas about how to improve society as a whole, instead of zero sum game between men and women.

Hong Kong Covid Travel Guide – Dec 2022

Hey, it’s your boy Jeffrey with all the covid information you need to know in order to travel to Hong Kong as of December 2022.

First, in order to get on your flight, you’ll need a GREEN QR code. You can fill out the information in https://www.chp.gov.hk/hdf/ in order to get this QR code by first selecting “Select Health Declaration Form” and filling out the form. When you finish submitting the form, you should take a screenshot or picture of the website with the QR code so you can show it to the airline attendants.

Second, in order to eat at restaurants, you’ll need a BLUE QR code. You can fill out the information in https://www.chp.gov.hk/vac-df/# in order to get the blue QR code, which is the vaccine pass. You’ll need to show this to all restaurants when you want to dine in. You can choose to download the LeaveHomeSafe mobile app from the Google Play or App Store to help you store that QR code. One thing to note is that you need at least 3 doses of a covid vaccine in order to get the blue QR code.

Great, that’s all you need to know about QR codes. In terms of the covid testing you need to do, it gets a little bit more confusing. Here’s the official guidance by Hong Kong https://www.coronavirus.gov.hk/eng/inbound-travel.html

Basically, you’ll need to take a self administered covid tests for 5 days after you arrive in Hong Kong. On the second day after arriving, you’ll need to take a PCR covid test at a government affiliated site. This PCR covid test will can be scheduled through this website https://booking.communitytest.gov.hk/form/index.jsp . In order to schedule the PCR test, make sure you have a phone that can receive text messages from Hong Kong. You’ll need to bring your identification and the PCR test schedule confirmation when you actually go to the location to get tested. The self administered testing information should be uploaded to https://www.chp.gov.hk/ecmss . You should receive an email from eCMSS@dh.gov.hk after you arrive in Hong Kong with some additional details. In that email titled “[不要回覆]關於抵達香港後的注意事項及強制檢測的規定[DO NOT REPLY]Points to Note after Arrival to Hong Kong”, you’ll find the Reference number needed for uploading your test results online. One thing to note, you’ll need to check your temperature as part of uploading your test results, so having a thermometer will be helpful. You can also buy a thermometer in Hong Kong.

Finally, it is mandatory to wear a mask in public.

For a TLDR:

GREEN QR code: needed for flight

BLUE QR code: needed for dining in restaurants

6 at home tests have to be done once per day (day 0 – day 5)

A PCR test will have to be scheduled and taken on Day 2.

Wear a mask in public places

Cool, that’s the bulk of the information you need to know as of now. Hopefully the guidelines get even easier to follow in the future!

Vietnam Observations

I visited Vietnam for the first time and during the trip, I saw some “interesting” aspects of the country piqued my interest.

1. Motorbikes are popular

In Vietnam, it seems like there are a lot more motorbikes and mopeds than cars. Everyone drives motorbikes including students and adults. Motorbikes can fit up to 4 people (2 adults and 2 children). Some of the students driving the motorbikes looked pretty young, like in middle school.

I think one consequence of this is that the driving is a bit hectic. However, the people use honking as communication to let other motorists know that they intend to pass, which helps improve road safety.

2. Growing vegetables in countryside

While driving in the countryside, I noticed that the majority of the greenhouses have a roof with an opening. Imagine the roof is a semi circle – half of the roof has a different height than the other half of the roof, so the top of the building has a long opening. It seems like this may have something to do with air circulation. Another thing I noticed was that people set up makeshift gardens in their concrete driveways. They put out tarp on top of the driveway and then laid out dirt in rows. I couldn’t tell what they planned to grow in these gardens, but I suspect that they would be used to grow small vegetables, like baby tomatoes or small greens.

3. License plates have punctuation

I noticed that there are license plates that have dashes and decimal points. A few examples:

  • ###-####
  • ###-###.##
  • ##-## ####
  • ##-## ###.##

I’m not sure if there are meanings behind the dashes or the decimal points, but the dash only exists if there are 4 digits in the first section and the decimal point only exists if there are 5 digits in the second section. There is no indication for city or state as far as I could tell.

4. Pink hand soap

I feel like over half of the bathrooms I visited over my Vietnam trip had the same pink hand soap. I don’t know if they have a monopoly on the hand soap market or if this brand is just the cheapest option, but I thought it was pretty shocking.

5. Random animals walking around

During this trip, I saw a bunch of random animals walking around the streets and highway. Chicken, lizards, flies, mosquitoes, cats, dogs, oxen, and perhaps some more. Most of them seemed to just be chilling and trying to find food – these animals seemed to either be wild or stray.

Closing thoughts

I think Vietnam is a good country to visit. The food is tasty and relatively inexpensive. There are a number of activities for people to enjoy in the cities. The range of temperatures between morning and night can be large depending on where you are in the country, so looking up the weather forecast is helpful to determine how to dress for the day. One aspect I didn’t realize until this trip was that Vietnam is a large country in terms amount of land so traveling from one city to another can take a long time.

I have some more minor observations from the trip that I can talk about in the comments or in another blog post, but I think these 5 points are good enough for now.

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