1. You have to greet the person when you see them
I think that this advice is generally valid for interacting with people – not necessarily for the relationship context. I received this advice when I was in middle school and it seems to have held up throughout the years. I thought I would get more pieces of advice from my friend, but this was all I got during that time.
2. You have to be interesting
I was at work when I overheard a story one of my coworkers was telling another coworker about her dating experience. This advice wasn’t exactly what she said, but it was the basic gist. To my knowledge, the background was that there was a guy my coworker met through a dating app and they seemed to get along decently since he was willing to make her food, clean her apartment, take care of her dog, etc. but she ended things since she didn’t find him very interesting.
3. You should be yourself
This is a very common piece of advice in media and it is most likely valid. I don’t remember who I heard this from, but I’m sure that this advice worked for them. Personally, this type of advice leads me down two trains of thought. One is that I do not really know who I am so “being myself” doesn’t really mean much – like I get that I shouldn’t try to act like someone else, but what if that is a part of my personality that I haven’t displayed that often. Two is that I’ve been myself for my whole life. Has that helped me in my dating and relationship history? Remains to be seen – there is a lack of evidence since I have not dated anyone before.
4. You should put on your dating profile that you are six feet tall.
I understand that guys do put that they are six feet tall on their profile, but those people are most likely a bit closer to six foot. I feel like starting off with a white lie is not a great way to start anything. Also, I don’t think I have a personality or confidence of a six foot person – not that I think that my personality or confidence would change if I were six foot. It’s more like that’s just not who I am.
5. You should show that you are passionate about something
I feel that this is similar to the advice about being interesting. Unfortunately, I do not think that I am passionate about anything, at least not enough to talk at length about it. One of my biggest hobbies is to read manga and even amongst my manga reader friends, I forget so many of the details of the characters or the plot to the point where I sometimes forget why I brought up the conversation to begin with.
6. You should go out and do activities you are interested in and meet people that way
This seems to be a generally valid piece of advice in order to socialize with people since you are doing something you are comfortable with and are likely to find like-minded people. More recently, I haven’t had the motivation to do this. Also, when I do activities like exercise or volunteer, I don’t really have an urge to socialize with people. Even in social settings, I don’t really care to strike a conversation with strangers. I think that this fact is the most likely detractor that is setting me back – but that’s just who I am.
7. It would help if you had a mansion and 10 million dollars
I am definitely attempting to accumulate more money, but I am quite far from this. If this is what it took to be in a relationship, then I’ve seen more millionaires in my life than I can count. I agree that having access to money can be beneficial in multiple aspects in life, but this is not easily attainable by me and I’ll have to revisit this piece of advice much further down the line.
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Jeffrey's Thoughts 